Love rules without rules & Love is more than a noun — it is a verb; it is more than a feeling — it is caring, sharing, helping, and sacrificing ….

It’s another Valentine s day … what can I say … my belief always‘s that, it‘s required we celebrate ‘love’ every day … but it’s kind of an important reminder too … especially for those who forget that such things are needed … essential … in everyone s life … life without love … is  something which no one would want to endure … feel love … give love and receive love … 

people  … it’s living life …

but how can one begin to love … well … I could say … there s no formula … no rules …  it’s how one feel … and it’s different to each other … read below and see … which way your love flows … and by all means .. let it flow …

Love Language

 

“Love” in English have hundreds of meanings in common usage. 

“Love” in the Hebrew is expressed by a variety of words, which are somewhat broad in their usage …

Dodim an impulse of heart, sexual attraction

Hamed desire, covet, lust

Agav impure love, doting, lust

Re’a Companionship, friendship

Hesed mercy and compassion

Hasheq Strong attachment

Ahav desire, inclination or affection, whether human or divine

 

“Love” in the Greek, is expressed by five distinct words, having much more precise meanings …

Desire – Attraction (epithumia)

Longing – Romance (eros)

Belonging – Affection (storge)

Cherishing – Friendship (phile)

Selfless Giving – Christian Love (agape)

Strangely enough, one can be loved and accepted un-conditionally and still not feel genuinely loved. What feels like love will vary with the individual – this is why you must know your mate so well. One person may measure love by the way his material needs are met, or by tangible items such as expensive gifts. Another may feel loved when her husband helps her with the dishes. One will measure love by the amount of time spent together, or by the quality of openness and sharing of thoughts between the two. Another desperately needs to hear often the words: I love you.

Still another measures love by physical affection – hugs and kisses. One person puts a heavy emphasis on the loyalty shown by the mate, especially in public. Values sensitivity shown to feelings. Some will measure love by the support given to their personal growth and development. There are so many languages of love! While all I have mentioned are important, some of them will have special, even critical significance for your mate on an emotional level. Learn what speaks love to your partner; then express your love in ways that cannot be doubted.

-Ed Wheat, Love Life, p. 126

Love Language #1: Words of Affirmation

Verbal Compliments; Words of Praise – Focus is on something they do that is under their control. Encouraging Words – Focus is on who they are. See the world from their perspective. Kind Words – Tone is crucial! Humble Words – make requests, not demands. When you make a request, are you affirming his or her abilities? Indirect Words – How you speak about a loved one not in their presence can have an impact, words of guidance, especially for children.

Love Language #2: Quality Time

Togetherness – when we give someone our undivided attention, combined focused attention, it creates Togetherness. Quality Conversation – A genuine attempt to understand the other person’s thoughts, feelings, and desires, both parties become better listeners and better sharers. Quality Activities – Anything in any of you an interest, do it together.

Love Language #3: Receiving Gifts

Think about a gift you received as a child. What made it so special? Come up with at least three things or principles for how to show someone love through the giving of a gift. “Gifts are visual symbols of love.” Sometimes, physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give if your partners primary love language is receiving gifts. Your body becomes the symbol of your love.” Children know the difference between a gift and a bribe.

 

Love Language #4: Acts of Service

Doing things you know your partner would like you to do. Make a list of things you know your loved one would want you to do. Be specific and practical. “Requests, giving directions is love, but demands, stop the flow of love to an abrupt halt.” In order to serve well, must pay attention to our own physical and emotional needs. Who are we really serving and for what purpose?

Love Language #5: Physical Touch

Touch is more than sexual. “Don’t make the mistake of believing that the touch that brings pleasure to you will also bring pleasure to the other.” No, it’s not always the case. Touch is required, when it s required, not too soon, not too late either.

 

Choose any language … and start loving …  cos it’s never too late …

to fall in love !

 

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~ The Blind Side ~ – Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get–only with what you are expecting to give–which is everything – Katherine Hepburn

Touched, deeply touched. Humanity at it’s best.

I’m not a brilliant movie critic, hence I can’t speak of any minor flaws from a cinematographic view point; i.e. how good is the screen play, whether they have done a good editing job, be it about the casting job or lighting issues or camera angles…  etc etc..

But I could certainly talk about the story … like I said before… it touched me truly. If one wonders what I’m getting at, I’m speaking of the movie, “The Blind Side “.

Like most, I first dismissed it; refused to believe the story, I thought; how could this be true? When there are constant stories we hear; that some mothers & father s destroying their own flesh & blood. This is impossible. How could such humanity exist? Highly unlikely, a kid from a different neighborhood, in general terms (poor may be still) a colored child “? raised by a white family? They accepted him in to their life; treat him like their own?? Isn’t it too good to be true? But it indeed s a true story after all …

And then the movie aroused my curiosity & my curiosity was paid off. I saw it & I loved it. I was deeply moved, rather I was in shock yet I felt so good. It’s a “Must see “movie, for those who have unbiased feelings, thoughts & for those who aren’t hypocrites… I could be hopelessly emotional at times; especially when I see such a movie; I must say I love happy endings too.

What other better way to spend my holidays; nice weather, comforts of my home & a good movie with a happy ending … can’t ask for more…

THUMBS UP Sandra!

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A good book should leave you… slightly exhausted at the end. You live several lives while reading it. ~William Styron

Perfect

“A rootless foster child, Julie Mathison had blossomed under the love showered upon her by her adoptive family. Now a lovely and vivacious young woman, she was a respected teacher in her small Texas town, and she passionately lived her ideals. Julie was determined to give back all the kindness she’d received; nothing and no one would ever shatter the perfect life she had fashioned.

Zachary Benedict was an actor/director whose Academy Award-winning career had been shattered when he was wrongly convicted of murdering his wife. After the tall, ruggedly handsome Zack escaped from a Texas prison, he abducted Julie and forced her to drive him to his Colorado mountain hideout.

She was outraged, cautious, and unable to ignore the instincts that whispered of his innocence. He was cynical, wary, and increasingly attracted to her. Passion was about to capture them both in its fierce embrace…but the journey to trust, true commitment, and proving Zack’s innocence was just beginning….”

This Book, has captivated me, my imagination, I cannot keep it aside but I had to, did it every time with such force, never have read such a Romance; a few unreal situations  and certain characters act unnatural at times though but it’s forgivable …

Judith McNaught – such a wonderful story teller … feel like asking her where Zachary Benedict lives … Julie Mathison Lives … so alive … really touching, full of emotions, suspense, romance, bravery, heart ache, you name it, the story has every thing, nothing missed. If some ones there, who’d love to collect a book, not just any book, a great romance, a good novel, who would love to read some thing different, then …

Perfect ……is a Perfect choice …

Little bit about the author:  

Judith McNaught (b. 1944) is a bestselling author of over a dozen historical and contemporary romance novels, with 30 million copies of her works in print. She was also the first female executive producer at a CBS radio station. McNaught is credited with inventing the modern Regency Historical romance subgenre

Before gaining success as a writer, McNaught has previously worked as an assistant director for a film crew, an assistant comptroller of a major trucking company, president of a temporary employment agency, and president of an executive search firm. She also was the first female executive producer at a CBS radio station.

 

McNaught’s first manuscript was Whitney, My Love, which she wrote between 1978 and 1982. After having difficulty selling that novel, she wrote and sold Tender Triumph in early 1982. She received the book cover for Tender Triumph on June 20, 1983 — the day after her beloved husband Michael McNaught was killed in an accident.

Whitney, My Love, the first manuscript, was finally published in 1986, after McNaught had proven herself with two successful published novels. The book is now credited with inventing the genre today known as the Regency Historical. Whitney, My Love captured the elements of the traditional Regency romance, but its long length, sensuality, and emotional intensity were more often associated with the traditional historical romance, which were rarely set during the Regency period. Despite the many years it took to sell the story, it was very successful, and its success influenced other editors to solicit manuscripts written in the same style

 

At the beginning of McNaught’s writing career, she was one of a very few authors writing for the historical romance market. By 1985, however, the genre had exploded, and over 50 new historical romances were being published each month, many of them full-length historicals set in the Regency period like McNaughts. Despite her years of success in the historical romance genre, in 1990 McNaught switched genres to write contemporary romances, hopeful that she would have a better opportunity to distinguish her work in a less-saturated market. As her career has continued to mature, McNaught has gradually introduced elements of suspense into her writing of their genre, however, tend to be fast-paced, with strong, loyal, compassionate and intelligent heroines.

 

McNaught was one of the first romance authors to receive a multi-million dollar contract and have her novels published in hardcover, better positioning them for review by major publications. She reached the New York Times Bestseller List for the first time in 1988, and all of her subsequent books have also placed on the NYT Bestseller List. She was the keynote speaker at the RWA Conference in 1996, and in 1997, Texas Women’s Monthly selected her among their four favorite authors, with John Grisham, Patricia Cornwell, and Dean Koontz. She has also been awarded a Romantic Times Career Achievement Award, and had a Number 1 New York Times Bestseller with the romantic suspense Night Whispers

While McNaught at one time lived in Saint Louis, Missouri, she moved to Texas after falling in love with Dallas while on a book tour. She currently lives in Clear Lake, Texas. McNaught is active in children’s charity and with breast cancer causes, and she has recently begun promoting literacy issues. After creating a subplot on literacy in her novel Perfect, McNaught asked her publishers to include a response card in the book packaging. Because of its inclusion, thousands of women who had read the book volunteered to become tutors and help people learn to read.

If the book becomes a movie; I’d very much like to see Chris Evans – as Zachary Benedict

Some one looks like her – as Julie Mathison

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