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They say … “Change” is the only thing … which never Changes, yes … everything changes … everyone changes. From day one; the day we were born … how many changes do we encounter in our lives? Well … it’s what we call growing up … becoming mature.

Maturity comes with experience … experiences broaden up with age … we learn everyday … we learn through mistakes … we learn … until the day we die. Our experiences wary; it depends on person to person. Most of the time … we owe our experiences to our relationships. Strangers we meet in our lives; some stays … become somebody in our lives … some depart; leaving memories and experiences for us to live with.

That’s Life …

I’d say … the most important relationship we need to have is with our selves, because everything we do … ultimately pleases ourselves.

and that’s the truth …

We need the best of everything … human nature … best schools … jobs … friends … life styles …

even we choose the best person we meet, as our Life s Partner …

“The Perfect Partner” … our ultimate lover, our soul mate, our equal, who shares almost every interest and belief of ours. The individual whom we choose, as the life s’ Perfect Partner plays an important role in our lives.

Yes … we are all individuals … with different opinions, philosophies, political beliefs, hobbies, musical tastes, and habits – some good and some bad … depending on one’s point of view. These things are what make up who we are, our unique nature.

In a relationship, there have to be some common interests, but not necessarily have to share every possible interest and belief. Some of the differences between us and our potential partners may actually be advantageous to building a stronger, loving relationship. As we mature … the biggest priority in our long-term relationships tends to be compatibility.

We long for someone who understands us, appreciates us … and above all else … cares for us .

Sometimes in life, people find this compatibility with the most unlikely of partners. But what would happen when the love of our life is 10 or 15 years older (or younger) than us?

I must say … life isn’t a Soap opera nor a Hollywood | Bollywood Movie … when someone bring home a partner who is significantly older or significantly younger … then inevitably there are some eyebrows raised … as people love nothing more than some good gossip if they can’t understand a relationship … this would give the outside world plenty of things to talk about.

Is he/she just in it for money? or is it just for intimacy? plenty of questions … isn’t it.

In my point of view … what’s more important is ones happiness … and I believe … a relationship with a big age gap can work … age is just a number people … and there are many examples of couples who are not similar in age ending up very happy together.

Of course everybody is different … and every relationship is different … and what works for one person isn’t necessarily what will work for another. There probably will be an element of worry – and reasons for concern too … as things might become wee bit difficult when you introduce an age difference into a relationship.

I suppose … when a couple has large gap of age … the younger spouse may, initially, search a paternal or maternal figure in his partner. He/she often seeks stability and security … which they do not find in someone of his / her age. As for the older spouse, he / she probably will be more appreciative the freshness and renewal that his/her young partner brings in to their lives.

However, to find harmony in a relationship like this … it is necessary to address certain problems that the age can pose.

Compliments … Appreciativeness … faithfulness crumbling with time
Compliments … appreciation … faithfulness bind two people to one another for a life time. If a couple … whether there s an age gap or no … fail to acknowledge the love … appreciate his / her partner … communicate their concerns / desires … failure to trust … will have no future written for them. In a relationship with a considerable age gap … one may feel trapped in his / her parenting and the other muffled by a lifestyle that suits him / her more. This is where the shift may be felt. Good communication and an ability to communicate freely is the keystone of a harmonious life for any couple. In addition, life together should not mean sacrificing nor deny own interests and it’s also important to find a balance in interests between partners.

Pressure from the outside world
Presenting a partner much younger or much older to one’s family is not always easy. Although it may seem nothing at first … one s family could change the direction of a relationship eventually if there s a reluctance to accept things as it is … But I believe one cannot live someone else s life … also one cannot please each and everyone … so it’s fine to pay attention to concerns of one s family yet it is necessary to be able to resist pressure since most definitely there will be unfavorable remarks and negative judgments of such relationships … then again …time solves most problems … having patience and working things out together will make a great difference.

The desire for children
If at all … having children is one of life s priorities for anyone … then … I believe getting involved with an older partner should be reconsidered … with age … one s stamina … health … intimacy … desire towards sexual pleasures go through changes … and it’s inevitable … and like it or not … we need to admit this reality … plus having a child s a critical decision … it all about providing love … security for a child, is it a wise idea to have a Child when one partner is getting older faster than the other? Desire of having a child will bring in disputes … especially when both spouses are not in line with the idea and when one gives the impression often it as a sacrifice … it will bring strain in to the relationship … and more issues will arise when there are children already on one side from another marriage. It’s a sensitive topic … which needs to be addressed before getting in to a marriage with an older partner I suppose.

Physical compatibility
Fitness … is the most common factor which would make a shift in anyone s lifestyle … when the older one feels too tired to lift a finger … the younger might have plans for a picnic outside in such fine weather … for a younger partner … refusal of such a great idea … having to stay inside than enjoying outside is absurd … he / she may find his / her life has become monotonous and boring … the older one may feel like as if his / her younger partner always has unreasonable requests … or perhaps has started behaving selfishly … asking for a skiing trip or bike ride to the city … when he /she can relax in front of the TV munching pop corns … or taking a relaxing holiday on the beach will be seen … as being silly … these incidents might go unnoticed but will gradually build up pressure in a relationship. This s where understanding and communication s required … partners need to be able to voice their concerns … understand … and find solutions.

As you may understand … there are differences … difficulties in any relationship … but the success story behind any relationship is despite difficulties finding a common ground.

I believe rather than having a partner of same age … having an older partner will be very rewarding for a woman.

The secret is … compromise.

and Enjoy life!

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After 8765.81 hours, 365 days, 52.1775 weeks and 12 months

we start another full circle of 8765.81 hours, 365 days, 52.1775 weeks and 12 months

And we’d go on to say… “Wow … here comes a brand New Year … oh where did time go”

Oh yes, 2013 has arrived and yes … it’s 3 days old already.

What have I been up to … what have we been doing … in 2012?

Honestly saying … if I could remember the count of the total number of tasks that I labeled as important which I think I have managed to complete … or … the number of pressing issues that I faced which I’d like to say I solved … at the end of 8765.81 hours, 365 days, 52.1775 weeks and 12 months, I’m positive, highly unsatisfactory figure would emerge as result.

Does that mean, I failed? couldn’t organize my time and did I waste it ? was I lazy … inefficient? to work things out? get things done? well … if one agrees with me, on utilizing time to the maximum, means, working for more than 5 ½ days a week, for minimum of 22 – 24 days a month and about 190 – 200 hours a month … then … strategically spending time or no … nobody can question my efforts I suppose … as I have achieved that kind of feat in 2012 .

yet … why do I feel … I should have done more? because there’s … as always … a continuation of something from the previous year … and I do not like it one bit, not that I can help it. It s forever so little time – so much to do … isn’t it.

Even if it’s not much that we have accomplished … in the past year, I recommend everyone, giving yourselves … a pat on the shoulder. I mean … if there’s no one to do that for us … why not do it ourselves?

And it is … I tell you, for the simplest reason, of surviving 2012 … sanity intact.

Think about it … it wasn’t an easy year and it all started with 2012.12.12 … focus was on the date our world was supposed to end, and then … it gets postponed to 2012.12.21 … more stress … yet nothing happens … the prediction of Mayans becomes a hoax, message misunderstood … and then the hocus pocus of Astronomers … predicting this, anticipating that … yellow and red rain, falls in Sri Lanka … an Asteroid was expected … god … will it ever sound any crazier than that?

But we lived through it all people; yes … we did it …. is that all? … nope, more to endure.

Why, then it comes to surviving … through the precariousness of the world we live

Fighting … killing … and not to forget the natural disasters … oh yes.

“Take the gun and shoot the fella if he doesn’t offer ya his wallet” … Power games of big nations, ignorance of smaller nations.

… in short … stronger human Vs the weaker one.

And then we see pictures of humans; dead … tiny hands popping out under debris … missile attacks in Gaza … and we read on more news; a crazed person decides to go on a killing spree … some innocent children dies one fine day, out of the blue, for no apparent reason … albeit the country s protecting its’ citizens s right for self defense, because for them it’s still reasonable to have a licensed fire arm at home … whether you got an insane person nearby or no. We go on reading; a prank on royals … callers are from a far away country, and their call drive an innocent human to end her life in another country … it was written that the person who did suicide, had psychological issues … the pranksters were innocent … and we must understand people … that it’s the most common thing on earth, you should know that people usually make prank calls on royals … it is expected … so why not take it just as a prank,  therefore not a reason to kill one’s self  … hence not anyone s fault but the one who died. We read more; young lovers end up beaten to pulp on the way home after a movie … on a moving Bus, the woman being gang raped by half a dozen men before thrown out and later dies of multiple internal wounds caused by the horrific attack … still the country’s focused on conquering space … why bother about illiterate, poor majority of citizens and the crime rate? and they have movie heroes in hundreds … to follow.

If you’d like to, you’d admit … all these news … stressed out our minds, disturbed our lives … as if we don’t have enough personal affairs to deal with …  though non of it directly connecting to us, these cases were of violating our rights as humans … the right to live, right to protect ourselves, loved ones … affect us in some way … after all,  it’s the world we live in … so we heard, saw and we experienced all this  … yet survived through last year … didn’t we?

Good on you people, well-done. We can very happily say, we saw, we heard, we lived through and therefore we conquered.

It’s alright, if we didn’t complete our work, accomplished whatever we planned  in 2012. Even if certain tasks got dragged on to 2013, it really doesn’t matter. What matters is that the attitude we have today … because we are survivors and it’s up to us to keep doing that.

So … say louder … say like a mantra:

“If I can do something once, I can do it again; if someone else can do something, I can learn to do it, too; I will constantly picture myself as I wish to be; my choices create me. I will wisely choose my thoughts, words, and actions; I am a person who grows from each and every challenge; I will see the positive in other people and I will say and do what I can to help; my immense value is a Divine gift; nothing anyone says to me can take away my immense value”.

Well … on a lighter point I say … unlike “Million earning – Super Models” … I don’t believe in ‘SNIFFING’ the cakes; I eat it.

I’v never counted calories, nope … and no … I’m not guilty at all … well of course I do not posses a super model figure nor that I’m rich.

and yet I’m happy – as happy as I can be … as for me, the most important right now is … that I’m happy and I’m alive.

 

Enjoy your days when you are still alive people!

~~ Happy New Year ~~.

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Miracles of Life

  

Hello and Happy New Year!

It’s a New Year already and today s the very first day of 2011. Gone was 2010, and yet another 365 days ahead of us.

Waking up in the morning alone was exciting today, wasn’t it?

Well … I wonder … for how many out there, a new year‘s beginning is as exciting as it is for you and me …

And I wonder … how many fathers, are leaving the mothers of their children this year … and how many mothers, would give up families for their own pleasures … as a result, how many kids, will end up in broken families.

I wonder … how many kids, will loose their faith … self esteem, confidence, and in the end, fail to see the worthiness of their lives and think of ending their lives … or take up roads which will end in tragedy.

I wonder … how many out there … will decide killing is the only way … when there are so many other choices they could make.

I wonder … how many out there … with corrupted, vile minds … sex offenders, pedophiles, all sorts of criminals …  are planning to claim victims … just because they’ve got miserable lives.

I wonder … how many parents out there… are waiting to see their beautiful children come home … especially those who are in someone else’s war … in armed forces … and the others … who are away earning a living … and those who have fallen out with their parents … for some petty reason … and won’t see eye to eye.

I wonder … how many grandparents out there … confined to bed … wheel chair …  are living in homes for adults …with strangers … waiting to see someone … someone they could call … family.

I wonder … how many out there …  are grieving for a life taken too early … or who failed many a times and longing to have a child of their own … or who are desperately waiting to see improvement in a loved ones life … either terminally ill or disabled.

Well … how I wish … that everyone could wonder … on a day like this … like me …

Still … according to some who walk on earth … life s a miracle … no matter what’s going on in their lives … and they just don’t stop wondering and they do have plenty to celebrate …

Then I wonder … again … how wonderful it would be … if … the rest of us … could see … something … miraculous … in life.

This s Readers Digest and its readers and how they felt and what they thought on life s Miracles:

27 Amazing Miracles in Real Life

 

The sunrise my father and I watched, standing at the top of one of the Smoky Mountains
—Marilyn M., Huntington, Indiana

Our son fell 40 feet off his barn roof onto cement and didn’t break any bones
—Ladonna S., George, Iowa

All the factors that came together to help me find the daughter I had given up for adoption
—Sandy M., Soda Springs, Idaho

A bumblebee … flying
—Karen D., Inverness, Florida

My husband getting out of the Pentagon, on 9/11
—Patti G., Fort Bliss, Texas

 The way my mother always knew I was coming home, even when I tried to surprise her. She would always have that extra baked potato in the oven
—G. E. G., Coeur d’Alene, Idaho

Losing my wife and business and surviving bankruptcy all at once, without dying of stress
—Jack K., Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

During a serious kidney stone attack at age 37, I went into a coma and saw a light at the end of a tunnel. I regained consciousness and lived. I am now 88 years old
—Euphemia R., Arcadia, California

Understanding how and why my grandfather acted like he did, now that I have grandchildren of my own
—Steve M., Sunapee, New Hampshire

Some would say that my actually getting married was a miracle
—Don L., Sherman Oaks, California

“The Grand Canyon”
—Kimberly V., Orrville, Ohio

I survived flying into a thunderstorm in a small airplane. It required more than my piloting skills. I was being watched over
—Bill B., Versailles, Kentucky

Births of my children and grandchildren
—MaryLou M., Ooltewah, Tennessee

The days are filled with miracles: a flower blooming, my heart beating, the purr of a cat, the Internet
—Barbara F., Penfield, New York

I feel that someone turning his life around for the better is a miracle
—Susan D., Stanford, Montana

Love for the unlovable
—Mary C., Mount Vernon, Ohio

Forgiveness
—Laura W., Aston, Pennsylvania

Our son died of a brain tumor at 17. On the second anniversary of his death, as I was driving to work, a double rainbow appeared in the clear sky. One end was on the road in front of us and the other at the cemetery where he was buried
—Peggy H., Boone, North Carolina

Microwave ovens, Color TV… Finding someone who actually loves me for who I am
—Steve R., Athens, Pennsylvania

Our country has gone from slavery to the election of an African American president
—Colleen D., Bonner Springs, Kansas

Being able to have enough income … to share with others … the less fortunate
—Carol S., Islamorada, Florida

I was saved in a fire by the vision of my first-grade teacher telling me how to survive
—Larry W., Pahokee, Florida

Hearts changed
—Suzi E., Howell, Michigan

A father who wrote poems to his wife and loved her forever
—Joanne L., Plymouth, Michigan

Surviving two cancers for almost ten years!
—Connie R., Denver, North Carolina

One I haven’t witnessed is the Vikings winning a Super Bowl
—Jann W., Maple Grove, Minnesota

The miracle of friendship
—Regina W., Columbus, Ohio

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Two short stories … just to inspire you … hoping that you’d believe in … life …

 

A Little Kindness

 
In the snow-covered desert on the Iraq-Syria border, Marine major Brian Dennis watched a pack of wild dogs circle the mud fort where he and his unit had stopped to rest and eat. The dogs had come for food scraps. Every time Dennis’s Border Transition Team passed through the area to patrol the ruined villages on the border, the 15 mongrels were waiting.

The leader of the pack was a gray-and-white German shepherd–Border collie mix with a black snout. The soldiers called him Nubs because sometime during his short, brutal life, someone had clipped his ears. Another casualty of war.

Nubs and his pack had shown up every week for three months. Locals considered thedogs nuisances and thieves, but Dennis, a 36-year-old F-18 fighter pilot on his second combat tour, developed a friendship with Nubs. This dog was an oddity. Though he was constantly fighting for dominance among the pack, he was also a clown. Around the Americans he jumped, rolled around, and performed antics for food. He reminded Dennis and his Marine comrades of pets back home.

That cold day in December 2007 as the dogs circled around, something was wrong with Nubs—he was shaking and barely able to stand. Dennis looked closer and saw that there was a gaping puncture wound in the right side of his chest. The fur around it was matted with dried blood, and the wound looked infected. Villagers told Dennis that an Iraqi soldier had stabbed the dog with a screwdriver.

Dennis couldn’t stand to see the dog suffer. He located the team medic, and together they cleaned the wound, applied an antiseptic cream, and gave Nubs an oral antibiotic. By the time they’d finished, temperatures had dipped below freezing. “I didn’t think he would make it through the night,” Dennis said.

But in the morning, Nubs was still alive—in pain, staggering, but alive. The team had to leave, so Dennis knelt down to say goodbye. “Stay strong,” he whispered to the dog.

Ten days later, Dennis’s unit was back—and so was Nubs. He was still weak, but the men fed him and played with him as they always had. When this visit was over and the unit once again pulled out, heading for their combat outpost 70 miles to the south, the Marines watched as Nubs, slow but determined, loped after their departing Humvees. He followed them far into the trackless wasteland until the men lost sight of him.

Two days later, Dennis was meeting with Iraqi officers at the outpost when one of his men came running in. “You’re not going to believe who’s outside,” the soldier said. Dennis went out expecting anything—except what he actually saw.

There was Nubs. “That’s impossible,” Dennis said. The dog had tracked him across 70 miles of frozen desert, braving wolves and militants to reconnect with the friend who had saved his life.

It was the Christmas season, but you don’t really have holidays in a war zone. Soldiers may have something special for dinner; some pause to pray or reflect. Still, the bombs and snipers don’t go away. “You can’t take the day off because it’s Christmas,” Dennis says. “There’s still a mission to do.” But this year, in this camp, Nubs arrived as a gift for 50 Marines.

Until the top brass found out. Keeping animals is against regulations, and word came down from above to get rid of the dog by “any means necessary.” They gave the men four days.

Dennis had to save this mutt. “We’d slept in the same dirt, run around in the same ruins,” he says. “I decided that this dog, who had been through war and abuse, was going to live the good life.”

So he looked for a way to ship Nubs to America. He searched the Internet and found a couple in San Diego who were willing to care for the dog until his combat tour was over. Family and friends quickly raised $4,000 for a plane ticket, a travel crate, and vaccinations. Nubs left the desert and flew from Jordan, across Europe, and on to Chicago and then California. A month later, Dennis arrived at Marine Corps Air Station Miramar, just north of San Diego.

When man and dog were reunited, at first Nubs didn’t recognize the guy with the wide smile and shaved head. This was not that dirty Marine in armored battle gear. But within minutes, the dog jumped into Dennis’s arms, leaping up again and again to lick his friend’s face.

“If you do something kind for someone, an animal or a person,” Dennis says, “he won’t forget you.” Nubs didn’t forget his friend when he returned to Iraq for another tour last March either. The two were reunited again in September, and a children’s book about their experience that Dennis coauthored, Nubs: The True Story of a Mutt, a Marine & a Miracle, has just been published.

A little care and concern in the midst of war will not redeem a violent world. The Christmas promise of peace and goodwill, cynics say, is an illusion. But then there are a million small stories, like the story of a soldier and a dog, to remind us that the impossible is always waiting, straining to become real.

The Magic Writer

 

 
Gary Cotter was a big, solid guy who had earned his living as an industrial spray painter. He loved old cars, Irish music, and telling stories to his friends after work at the Omega, a 24-hour diner. Most of all, Gary Cotter loved his kids, his grandkids, and Gail, his wife of 37 years.

He loved Christmas too. Every year, it was Gary who picked out the tree, hung the decorations, and strung cards around the family room of their home in Bay View, Wisconsin. Exuberant, affectionate, vivacious—to his family, Gary was larger than life.

In 2006, he was diagnosed with oral cancer. By Thanksgiving of 2007, he was dying. His family moved him from the hospital to receive hospice care at home. Yet, as if he could not bear to say goodbye to his loved ones at the time of year that meant so much, Gary hung on into the Christmas season.

It was Gail who swallowed her anguish on December 18 and gave her husband permission to leave them. She held Gary’s hand and told him, “It’s okay to go.”

When Gary stopped breathing, Gail called her daughter, Michelle, who lived across town. “Dad’s gone,” she said. Michelle rushed to her mother’s side. On the drive over, she turned on the radio and heard “I’ll Be Home for Christmas.” Every time she turned on the radio for the next week, she heard the song and was comforted. But Gail was overcome by her loss.

By April, Gail had moved in with Michelle and her husband and their daughters, ages three and one. And just like that, it was Christmastime again, the anniversary of Gary’s death. The holiday had become joyless for Gail. She missed Gary’s touch, his voice, the way he filled the room, the way he filled their lives.

Concerned about Gail’s continuing grief, Michelle often planned outings with her mother. One evening, she suggested that they go shopping at Big Lots, a store where her father had enjoyed hunting for bargains. For Gary, a trip to Big Lots at Christmastime had been a treasure hunt, with surprises around every corner, all destined for those he loved most.

As mother and daughter pulled into the parking lot, Gail, conscious of Michelle’s worry, tried to put on a cheerful expression. She knew that her granddaughters were eagerly awaiting the surprises that always turned up on Christmas Day. But without Gary, shopping at Big Lots was sad.

Inside the store, the women split up to search the shelves and tables for gifts for the girls. Gail wandered listlessly to the back of the store, where she saw a stack of Magic Writer tablets, popular doodle pads that kids can draw on and then clear by pulling a knob. Gail picked up one of the tablets to try and saw something written on it. She turned the screen sideways to read the markings. Suddenly, she froze.

In bold block letters, the message said “I love you Gail.”

Gail called out to her daughter: “Shelly, come here, quick.”

Michelle was a few aisles away, looking at dollhouse furniture. “What is it? Just tell me, Mom,” she said. Gail called out again. This time, Michelle heard the urgency in her mother’s voice. She ran over.

Gail was holding out the tablet in trembling hands. “Did you write this?” she asked her daughter. Michelle shook her head.

The handwriting didn’t look like Gary’s. Gail is a common enough name. Anyone passing through the store could have written the words for any reason and at any time—a teenager teasing his girlfriend, a husband writing an apology to his wife, a father showing affection for a young daughter. But Gail knew whom the message was for.

“Oh, my God,” she said. “Dad left me a sign.”

Gail bought the toy, telling the woman at the checkout counter not to erase the message. Then she and her daughter took it home. Gail put it in her bedroom, out of the kids’ reach—one light touch and the message might vanish forever. A year later, it’s still there: a promise for all Christmases to come.

Gail is a practical woman. Neither she nor her daughter is easily fooled by cheap mysticism or discounted grace. But Gail believes this—that at the loneliest moment of her life, a surprise and a treasure, a message of love, “was put there for me to find.”

Every child knows that Christmas is a season of surprises. And every adult knows that hidden amid sorrows and joys, disappointments and losses, closeouts and odd lots of discounted items, the ultimate surprise is love.

 

 

From Reader’s Digest

May you all have a blessed 2011!

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There’s one very important thing I have as a habit, which I’d never be able to stop I’m sure (I don’t want to), it started when I was just a kid.

I remember one fine day at school we had our break for our meals. I was having my usual sandwiches with butter and marmalade and I felt some one was staring at me even though my head was bent and I was looking down. I raised my eyes to see one of my teachers (one we feared the most) looking at me, for a minute I wasn’t sure why she had stopped by and was looking at me. It took a few seconds to realize that I have stopped eating, instead I was completely engrossed in an article in the paper which my sandwiches were wrapped (at the time I wasn’t carrying a Tiffin box as I thought it was “un cool for a 14 year old, plastic Tiffin boxes are for kindergarten I have decided).

 My teacher just shook her head and went passing me saying “its fine to read, but don’t forget to finish you meal”. To this day, I do it, I read. I cannot measure the worth of knowledge I have gained so far by reading those books I read. My secret ambition s linked to books, one day it won’t be a secret.

I learnt “The only wealth one cannot steal from you is your Education “. Be educated, read, “To learn to read is to light a fire; every syllable that is spelled out is a spark” – Victor Hugo.

 

Why Education is Important | Your Child Needs a Steady Diet of His ABCs

It really isn’t just the abacus, mathematical cleverness, ABCs or learning flawless speaking and writing of the language, whatever the medium of instruction is. Education goes beyond pedagogical considerations or scholarly aspirations. Education, we believe, should first teach human beings that most essential survival tool: resourcefulness.

Resourcefulness – When you’re resourceful, things happen…very nicely!

When we were under the tutelage of Catholic nuns who ran this private school half an hour away from home, they taught us the rudiments and refinements of writing. “If you want to write well”, one of them reminded us, “you have to read voraciously. And if that means spending your free time in the library, do so.”

The nuns loved to say that consistent research teaches students to be resourceful. The more time you spend looking for answers, the more opportunities stream into your consciousness.

They were right, of course. The amount of term papers assigned to us made us hang out in the library longer than we cared to. Deadlines, however, left us no choice. We called these nuns the machines of torture who probably should be let out of the convent gates more often. To us – oppressed pupils that we were – they needed to see that the world outside was more than just books.

Those machines of torture may have been motivated by only one thing – academic instruction – but it sure ingrained in us the ability to find information in the oddest possible places. If you expand your horizons, they used to say, you’ll be resourcefulness experts. They had it all figured out. If they thought that it was worthwhile to drill us on reciting the alphabet backwards, they would ram it down our throats. Of that we were sure. Thankfully, getting our ABCs right one way was sufficient. It wasn’t necessary to say, ZYX and further backwards until the letter A.

Why Education is Important | It’s Your Passport to the World

Basic arithmetic, reading and writing will get you somewhere, but not everywhere. The higher your educational attainment is, the better your chances of creating opportunities for yourself. And the better your opportunities are, the better your quality of life is. There’s no other way to put it.

What are some of the benefits of a well-rounded education?

  • we’ll say it one more time: resourcefulness. This quality will serve you long after you’ve left the walls of academia. With resourcefulness comes a sharpened set of problem-solving skills;
  • knowledge is power – schools and universities are logically the first sources of knowledge and we take that knowledge later on to build our careers after graduation. More knowledge is acquired on-the-job, but without an education, that job would not be within easy reach. Knowledge begets knowledge.
  • greater understanding of different cultures – while confined within the walls of educational institutions, we openly explore other cultures of the world. We come to know that ours is not the only culture. Other cultures have valuable insights to share, enriching our own. We also learn that different races have different ways of thinking and doing things, and we realize that anything foreign can be an enlightenment of our minds and spirit. Education also makes us want to travel and interact with various cultures. When we understand other people, our tolerance level is much higher for things alien to us;
  • quality of life – when there’s a downturn in the economy, those who lose their jobs owing to a downsizing will most likely be the ones who find another job sooner, compared to someone who only finished grade school and has a limited skills set. The more education you have, the more chances you get for improving your lot in life. You have a better job, earn a higher a salary, and if you’re financially prudent, you get to acquire the material comforts (and more) that not everyone can have;
  • a good education translates to excellent networking – when you’re skillful and knowledgeable, you get to “rub knees” with people of similar backgrounds and tastes. By building a network of contacts in your field or industry, you enlarge your spheres of influence and hence the circle of people that you can rely on in time of need;
  • you can make your conversations sizzle! – when you possess oodles and oodles of knowledge, you become a more interesting person. You can talk about ideas and events instead of just about other people and what’s on sale in stores. An educated person does not gossip, having a preference to discuss ideas and to listen to what other people have to say. An educated person usually doesn’t make a habit of keeping ears and eyes to the latest Hollywood scandal because the lives of famous people aren’t really stimulating topics to begin with;
  • healthier lifestyle – when you’re educated, experts say that those who have a university and post graduate education are least likely to suffer from Alzheimer’s or dementia. We’re not sure if this has a scientific basis, but if the medical profession recommends that people keep their brains healthy and active, that means those who pursued higher learning have more opportunities to keep their brains and minds active.

 

Why Education is Important | Start the Kids Young

We’ve heard of some parents who would rather have their children home-schooled rather than send them to school. This may have its merits – except we’re not sure what they are – but we would worry if the child spent all day with one tutor and misses out on the chance to interact with kids his age.

We believe that education is important in a school setting because that education has to be accompanied by social interaction. The child also needs tools and resources (like a library) that only schools can provide. True, there are problems in schools like bullying, drugs and other distractions, but the education and interaction acquired in a school setting are more enriching than one received at home with a single tutor.

Education is important especially for young kids because it is when they are still young that their minds are open and teachable, and it’s a time of life when they view things with innocence and receptiveness.

 

Ways to Encourage Reading Skills

 

 

As every parent knows, reading is an important skill that all children should develop in order to have a bright future. We use reading in almost every aspect of our daily life and even without using it, reading opens up a world of possibilities for everyone.

It can be a world that is filled with colorful characters, amazing vocabulary and spectacular whimsies and it can be a world that encourages learning, and creativity. Reading is so important that many parents are often worried about reading skills before their child has even reached the age of reading.

Surprisingly, reading skills are one of the few developmental skills that can occur over a large range of age groups. At one time, we tended to focus on reading development occurring during the first few years of formal school education. Sure, children enjoyed a good story but they weren’t ready to read, were they? The answer is that some children are more than ready to read at ages as young as three while others tend to wait until they are about 7.

Another important part of that answer is that although formal reading education begins during the early years of school, the foundation for reading occurs from the time your baby is born until that fateful day when she picks up a book and reads it.

So what are some ways that you can encourage reading in your child? Experts throughout the years have had tons of advice on encouraging reading skills and although many of the steps that they promote do work, parents should not have to feel overwhelmed when it comes to encouraging reading in their children. Instead, they should just focus on the three steps outlined below and if they desire, they can build from there. After all, everything needs a strong foundation to be successful.

Provide the material:

One of the best ways to encourage reading is to actually provide the material. A home that doesn’t have books is not going to send a message to the children residing in it that reading is an important part of life. Make sure you have lots of books available to your children and make most of them age appropriate; however, make sure you have a few that are just above their current reading ability and age level. This aspires a continual growth in both interests and skills and your child won’t plateau as much as he would with only age appropriate materials being offered.

When you provide the material, it is important to take the time to actually offer it. Make a habit of reading with your child for about 15 minutes per day. This can be a story at bed time but it can also be a story during unplanned periods of time. An impromptu story time makes reading into a fun and leisure activity that can be enjoyed whenever the mood hits. Make sure that you start reading to your child in infancy to ensure a lifetime love of reading. If you are reading to your child, try your hand at some chapter books. This helps increase attention spans and keeps not only your child but yourself interested in reading.

Read:

One of the best ways to encourage reading in your child is to read yourself. This does not mean reading only magazines and newspapers but it should also mean opening up a novel or two a month. If your child sees you reading, he or she is more likely to emulate you and begin reading as well. It is very important for boys to see their father reading since a love of reading is something that is rarer in boys than it is in girls.

Pursue topics of interest:

Lastly, when you are encouraging reading in your child, it is important to really pursue topics of interest. Children thrive when they are learning and there is no limitations towards cracking open a book to discover new facts about a subject. This also teaches your child many other skills, such as cross referencing, vocabulary building, and researching skills that will aid them in school.

When you are pursuing topics of interest, give and take conversations, especially about facts found in books, will help in raising the interest and this will lead to more research. And we all know what more research means; more reading.

Encouraging your child to read is not always an easy task but if you start at a young age, you will feel confident that your child will have a life time filled with reading.

 

Helping Your Child With Math

 

We all know how important it is to read with our children. In our culture, a story at bedtime has become nearly as routine as brushing one’s teeth. But what about that other very crucial subject in school… Mathematics. What can you do to help your child succeed in math?

Be Aware of Your Own Math Attitudes

The first thing experts in the field of math education will tell you is to explore your own attitudes about math. “I was never good with numbers” is not a comment likely to engender enthusiasm for math in your child.

If you lack confidence in your mathematical ability, or if you were not fond of the subject during your own school years, a valuable alternative to expressing a positive math attitude is to make it relevant for your child. Help him understand how math is important in everyday life.

No need to profess love for geometry if you don’t really feel it. Instead, tell your child how he will use geometry in real life. As you drive over a bridge, point out that the engineers who designed it had to be familiar with the Pythagorean Theorem to make it all work.

The same goes for decimals (needed to calculate a tip when dining out), arithmetic (critical for balancing the checkbook), and fractions (an absolute must in cooking).

Familiarize Yourself with What Your Child is Learning in School

Each grade has a set curriculum comprising learning objectives to be covered during the school year. Find out what those objectives are for your child. Armed with this knowledge, you might be surprised at how you can naturally figure out ways to work practice opportunities into daily life with your child. Your child’s teacher will also be able to offer suggestions of ways you can reinforce at home what she is teaching at school.

It’s the How, Not the What

Being too focused on always getting the “right answer” is one surefire way to extinguish a child’s enthusiasm for math. Instead of immediately saying, “That’s right!” ask instead, “Are you sure that’s right?” or “How did you get than answer?”

It is important to know that there are many ways to get the “right answer” – even for the most straightforward arithmetic problem.

While it is valuable for your student to learn traditional methods for solving problems, it is equally important to affirm that his methodology is correct if his way does indeed help him arrive to the correct answer. It is also valuable to help him understand how his way is not working if it is not. Either way, you are helping your child believe in himself as a mathematician – as a student whose thinking is worthwhile and purposeful.

By encouraging your child to explain his thinking – this is called metacognition in educational circles – you are modeling interest in the process of math. This interest or curiosity is what will keep a child’s enthusiasm for math at a high level, even when faced with a daunting problem or difficult task.

Also, research indicates that a person who can explain how he got an answer is much more likely to remember the information required to get the answer in the first place. Another way to help a child in this manner is to ask him to teach you what he learned that day in math class. Again, by explaining the process to you, he is reinforcing his own understanding of the process.

You Don’t Need to Have All the Answers!

As your child progresses through the grades, even in elementary school, there may be homework problems or entire topics that you don’t understand. No need to fret or be embarrassed. By helping your child look through resources to find the answer, you are teaching him how to be self-reliant. It is just as important to know where to go for information as it is to have it already accessible in your brain.

Encourage Your Child

Many students feel that they can’t be good at something if they aren’t the best. Remind your child that every student is unique. Just because he has not been successful in the past with math does not mean that he cannot become more capable in math now. If you suspect that your child is comparing himself to other students and that these comparisons are stifling his progress, help him set reasonable goals for himself. As he meets these goals, he will build self-confidence and begin to view himself as a capable math student. Oftentimes hearing that someone else (especially a parent or teacher) has faith in his ability is just the inspiration a child needs to restore his faith in himself.

In helping your child foster an appreciation for math’s relevance in his daily activities outside of school, you are doing more than boosting his math grade. You are helping to make math real for him. This will serve him well in the classroom… and in life.

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5th of January of Year 2009, I just said Adieu to 2008 didn’t I, pretty amazing how the time flies. Isn’t it Time that we have and we don’t have? I sat at my desktop, thoughts, memories flashed across my mind; I have to start my very first Post for the Year and it’s the first for this month as well.

 

I looked for a place to start and then I started wondering about how my life has passed by. Did I really accomplish those things that I wanted to accomplish, my Childhood Dreams? Well, I can give both ‘yes’ and ‘no’ answers and I’m certainly not proud about my ‘NO’ s … yet I’m no super human I thought to my self, how can I accomplish every single dream I had? I thought, well may be I’m too harsh on my self, it’s not realistic to see all my dreams come true or may be I didn’t dedicate my time enough, believed in myself enough, not enough effort or I wasn’t that enthusiastic after all to pursue some Dreams or is it really me ….? What about the other factors contribute one s failures? I’m not looking for excuses for myself but I can’t really blame my self alone for re directing my life at some points or rather not living my Dreams.

 

Ok, now, do I still have time to accomplish them? Good question …. But I do not know the answer …. Still I can give it a try, can’t I? Wasted time … it will never return … but we must not waste any more of it …. Time is precious

 

 

 Acharya Shubhendu Tripathi –  says …

 

 Time is such a cart on which the man’s life travels from birth till death. Time is the most precious thing in a man’s life because each and everything in life can be achieved again and again but time is such, it can’t be found again. The time which is lost once, it’s lost for ever. A man can’t fail to reach his goal if he manages his time wisely. The wheel of time revolves at the same speed in life for every one, with days and nights. One person make full use of their time and climb up the steps of success, whilst others waste their time in useless things or in wandering here and there to repent afterwards. To get full benefit of time, it is necessary to distribute your time according to you are involved in and complete it at a fixed time.

Besides taking care of our time, take care of others’ time too, ex: If somebody gives us time for a meeting, it is our duty to reach there in time. If we don’t do so, we make our own loss and also cause a loss for another person by wasting his precious time as well.

A person who distributes his time according to his work, he performs his work in time perfectly without any haste. A person remains free from tension and also he makes his economical status strong. A person with strong economical position can fulfill his family responsibilities well. If you manage your time properly, you will have more time to do extra work. This time saving will enhance your productivity. Productivity is directly related to your income.

                     “Kal karai so aaj kar, aaj karai so ab,  

                      Pal mein parlai hoigi, bahuri karaigo kab.”                  

The above poem means that we should not postpone our today’s work on tomorrow. Time is non-returnable and nobody knows what the next moment will bring for us. Those who plan to complete their tomorrow’s work today and their time on the same pattern; they live a happy and prosperous life.

Okay point taken.

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Split seconds

I was off to go back to work one evening and my two children were busy sewing things on the sewing machine. My eleven year old daughter was, in the midst of her project, going to assist her older brother in making a little cushion. I left, and in a few hours returned to find a mess in the kitchen, front room, and both children sitting in front of the television.

Having had a long day, I was very short with my greeting to them and then I noticed the material my daughter had used. It had been purchased to make a color coordinated baby blanket, and now had chunks cut out of almost every piece of fabric. Not stopping to listen, I exploded at the children and explained how angry I was at what had been done.

My daughter listened to me sheepishly, not trying to defend herself at all, but the pain could be seen written across her face. She retreated to her room quietly, and spent some time in there alone before she came out to say good night and once again apologize for the mistake she had made.

A few hours later, as I was preparing to go to bed, there on my bed lay a beautiful, little cushion made out of the forbidden fabric, with the words “I LOVE MOM”. Along side it was a note apologizing again, and the innocence in which she had taken the fabric.

To this day, I still get tears in my eyes when I think of how I reacted and still feel the pain of my actions. It was I who then sheepishly went to her and apologized profusely for my actions. I display with great pride the cushion on my bed, and use it as a constant reminder that nothing in this world is greater than a child’s love.

 

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To understand everything is to forgive everything, holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; but you are the one who gets burned first – Lord Buddha”. ….. truth, isn’t it? Now since you have read the short story I have for you; I could imagine you travel on your memory lane just as I did; just to ponder on certain things you did and to reminisce on certain things you said in some situations. Did you find your self being angry and hurting some one, the same way the mother in our story did unknowingly?

Soap Bubbles, they pop up and burst and what do you see after that? any thing worthy left? no there’s nothing. Similarly, anger; it only takes split seconds to come and go yet leaves you nothing but heart ache. Every time it pops up, it spoils your blood a little (physical aspect), shakes your compassion a little (psychological aspect) and it doesn’t stop there, it breaks and damages many bonds you have with the outer world, broken families leads to a broken society. Isn’t it clear now it’s nothing but our uncontrollable follies are acting as villains and we need to eliminate them completely from our system before it destroys what we love the most? before its too late? If you are a person, who can get easily annoyed and can be angered, you need to take a minute to think it over, accept it as it s one of your weaker points and try to over come the problem finding a solution. I would recommend a very constructive method for you to control your anger; some thing you’d have heard already; ……..“Meditation”……..

Don’t think you don’t have time to do it, the right time to do it is the time you loose your temper, it would probably be 10 – 20 times per a day for an arrogant person. If you master the quick steps of meditation, naturally you’d find yourself quietly stepping in to the world of peace even before you knew it.
 

 

“The only beautiful thing in the world whose beauty lasts for ever is a pure, fair soul”

 

Be Mindful

Meditation is the art of mindful concentration and relaxation. (more…)

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Count down

 

It’s December 2008, end of another year, gone so fast, so many births and deaths, vivid memories and blurred visions, joy and sadness, passed by chances and moments of triumph.

 

This’s the month for Celebrations, it’s the time to take a moment or two to give away to your emotions, don’t feel bad, nothing s wrong doing just that, every one needs it once in a while, it surely will eliminate depression, no pills needed, let go, feel free to be emotional. Don’t believe in Santa? no problem.. haven’t seen any angels with silver wings around? go in front of your mirror or look in to those eyes you love, you’d see angels minus wings, Enjoy my ‘count down’ blogs, hope you won’t be bored, trying to inspire a few lost souls.

 

  

 

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The Price of Children

This is just too good not to pass on to all, something absolutely positive for a change. I have repeatedly seen the breakdown of the cost of raising a child, but this is the first time I have seen the rewards listed this way. It’s nice, the government recently calculated the cost of raising a child from birth to 18 and came up with $160,140 for a middle income family. Talk about sticker shock! That doesn’t even touch college tuition. But $160,140 isn’t so bad if you break it down. It translates into:

· $ 8,896.66 a year,
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  $741.3 month, or * $171.08 a  week.
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That’s a mere $24.24 a day!
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Just over a dollar an hour.

Still, you might think the best financial advice is; don’t have children if you want to be “rich.” Actually, it is just the opposite.

What do you get for your $160,140?

  • Naming rights. First, middle, and last!
  • Glimpses of God every day.
  • Giggles under the covers every night.
  • More love than your heart can hold.
  • Butterfly kisses and Velcro hugs.
  • Endless wonder over rocks, ants, clouds, and warm cookies.
  • A hand to hold; usually covered with jelly or chocolate.
  • A partner for blowing bubbles, flying kites
  • Someone to laugh yourself silly with, no matter what the boss said or how your stocks performed that day.

For $160,140, you never have to grow up. You get to:

  • finger-paint,
  • carve pumpkins,
  • play hide-and-seek,
  • catch lightning bugs, and
  • never stop believing in Santa Claus. You have an excuse to:
  • keep reading the Adventures of Piglet and Pooh,
  • watching Saturday morning cartoons,
  • going to Disney movies, and
  • wishing on stars.
  • You get to frame rainbows, hearts, and flowers under refrigerator magnets and collect spray painted noodle wreaths for Christmas, hand prints set in clay for Mother’s Day, and cards with backward letters for Father’s Day.

 For $160,140, there is no greater bang for your buck. You get to be a hero just for:

  • retrieving a Frisbee off the garage roof,
  • taking the training wheels off a bike,
  • removing a splinter,
  • filling a wading pool,
  • coaxing a wad of gum out of bangs, and coaching a baseball team that never wins but always gets treated to ice cream regardless.

 You get a front row seat to history to witness the:

· first step,
· first word,
· first bra,
· first date, and
· first time behind the wheel.

You get to be immortal. You get another branch added to your family tree, and if you’re lucky, a long list of limbs in your obituary called grandchildren and great grandchildren. You get an education in psychology, nursing, criminal justice, communications, and human sexuality that no college can match.

In the eyes of a child, you rank right up there under God. You have all the power to heal a boo-boo, scare away the monsters under the bed, patch a broken heart, police a slumber party, ground them forever, and love them without limits.

 

So………one day they will like you, love without counting the cost. That is quite a deal for the price!

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