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newtown tragedy

You see … I was supposed to finish a story on “Near death experience” but now I have to abandon my long due article because of valid reasons. My apology …!


I quoted Rabindranath Tagore above; he considered Children as God send … as messengers.  An affirmative on his sentiments, as I share the same belief and I’m sure almost all of you’d agree with him too. If not, I assume you are a cyborg, not born naturally as a Human child.


Whatever those great Humans happen to say long time back in our history … words … in vain and those reflections been considered not as valid as they used to be … and this’s 21ST Century. If you disagree with me … then look round and can anyone please pin point a place, where a child s’ rights aren’t been violated? where a child’s not been abused … mean any form of abuse … a place where children don’t die premature … despite the way they die … a possibly safer place for them to live?  Can anyone?  No? I thought so …


It’s said that 1,477 Children been killed by Israel attacks and 129 Children died due to Palestinian attacks since 20th September, 2000 and that’s the conflict between these two countries over a strip of Land. I’m sure they are trying to win this strip of Land for enhancement of land … for their future. Which means … for their Children. Absolutely an ingenious style, I must say. When either of these countries wins the land eventually, I hope they’d not have to use it to bury the Children they killed. Bravo.


And then, we hear another shooting spree in USA. This time, target’s been 20 innocent children, 01st graders … and their Teachers. Some blame the “gun-laws” in USA … saying gun control measures aren’t adequate … that any lunatic can get hold of a gun, it’s just as easy as buying a loaf of Bread in USA. Some blame the Mental Health issues, saying most Americans suffer from some kind of psychiatric problem … (Americans aren’t alone there)…  that this Shooter was suffering from several types of disorders … that he came from a broken family plus he suffers from a personality disorder … really? … 20 Children HAD to die the most horrific way  … for American top shots and its citizens to realize that GUNS KILL. They wait for such trivial things to happen to discuss about minor matters like “Gun Culture” and “Mental Health issues” …. And yet forget about the whole thing in matter of weeks? Wow … why worry at all? These are simply nonsensical things which America has to be of concern. But I say … it’s a shame USA; why not use your super powers, intelligence, whatever you boast of … to protect at least your own children?

For me … Children ARE Children, anywhere on earth, one must understand.


Oh the funny part is … here we humans wonder, 12.12.12 World didn’t END and now we are curious whether it will happen on 12.12.21? … waiting for what EXACTLY are we?? an Asteroid?? …


I’d like to say, any person who has some common sense, I MEAN at least the size of a pin head, should realize, the World will surely end, but not on 12th Dec or 21st Dec … that it will happen eventually and it has already started happening. LOOK around people, what do you think? It started on … whatever the date we forgot the importance, the gravity, of our actions towards fellow humans, it started on that day we forgot the most decisive thing we require to protect, for continuation of human race … our CHILDREN.


Go on … you can keep doing what you are doing … we aren’t going to get hit by an Asteroid anytime soon.


But I’d like you to have something to ponder … and act differently if you think you should:

Words of Wisdom …

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell … He who experiences the unity of life sees his own Self in all beings, and all beings in his own Self, and looks on everything with an impartial eye … The thought manifests as the word. The word manifests as the deed. The deed develops into habit. And the habit hardens into character. So watch the thought and its ways with care. And let it spring from love, born out of concern for all beings … The mind is the source of happiness and unhappiness … and Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without …”


May you find your peace  … may you find ways to protect our Children … and the world will continue …!



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“The Long Absence … “

Well … I’m not talking about the 1961 French film, I’m talking about being absent a long time from my beloved site.

No … it’s not that I lost interest, busy schedule or lack of topics to write about.

I wandered off; I was simply tired.


Writing requires the kind of energy, mental energy, to pour your thoughts and feelings out.

Through your finger tips, on to the pen or to the key board, where it will be transformed in to words.

It’s kind of like Magic.


I didn’t have the Magical energy for a while.


But I never stopped reading, I read and read.

And then there …  it came back …  the edge, the energy, the big bang.


So here I am … back to writing … my favorite pastime.

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~ A jury consists of twelve persons …. chosen to decide … who has the better lawyer ~  Robert Frost



Tell me about it!



Name:                  Casey Anthony.


A self pitying, self absorbed, pathological liar,

some one who was in her own world, loves to live “the easy way “,

who never held a responsible job,

apparently decided at later point, being a mother, was wasting of time, her youth,

and her adorable daughter, a burden, was blocking her opportunities

to find happiness.




Name:                 Unknown.

                            the name given s not proven.

                            Casey s Anthony claims Eric Baker who died in a car accident, in 2007,

                            is Caylee s father but Eric s mother Wyvetta Ridner says

                            she doesn’t think her son fathered any children,

                            but she’s considering doing genetic testing to see if she is Caylee’s grandmother

What followed:     According to Casey Anthony’s father, George Anthony,

Casey left the family’s home on June 16, 2008,] taking Caylee (who was almost 3) with her and did not return for 31 days. Casey’s mother Cindy asked repeatedly during the month to see Caylee, but Casey claimed that she was too busy with a work assignment in Tampa, Florida. At other times, she said Caylee was with a nanny, later identified by Casey as Zenaida “Zanny” Fernandez-Gonzalez, or at theme parks or the beach. It was eventually determined that although Zenaida Fernandez-Gonzalez did in fact exist, she had never met Casey nor Caylee Anthony, any member of the Anthony family, or any of Casey’s friends.

On July 13, 2008, while doing yard work, Cindy and George Anthony found a notice from the post office for a certified letter affixed on their front door. George Anthony picked up the certified letter from the post office on July 15, 2008, and found that his daughter’s car was in a tow yard.

When George picked up the car, both he and the tow yard attendant noted a strong smell coming from the trunk. Both later testified that they believed the odor to be that of a decomposing body. When the trunk was opened, it ontained a bag of trash, but no human remains.

Caylee Anthony was reported missing to the Orange County Sheriff’s Office

on July 15, 2008, by her grandmother, Cindy. During the same call, Casey Anthony acknowledged to the 911 operator that Caylee had been missing “for 31 days”. A distraught Cindy also told the 911 operator,

“There is something wrong. I found my daughter’s car today and it smells like there’s been a dead body in the damn car”.

Evidence:        The Anthony case introduced new forensic science that has yet to be peer-reviewed.

The University of Tennessee‘s “Body farm” discovered “hair banding”, a phenomenon in which hair roots can form a dark band after death. A hair found in the trunk of the Anthony car exhibited this pattern. Air samples were sent to the Oak Ridge National Laboratory.

On Friday, October 24, 2008, a forensic report by Dr. Arpad Vass of the ORNL stated that results from an air sampling procedure (called LIBS) performed in the trunk of Casey Anthony’s car showed chemical compounds “consistent with a decompositional event” based on the presence of five key chemical compounds out of over 400 possible chemical compounds that Dr. Vass’ research group considers typical of decomposition (human decomposition was not specified). Whether or not the decomposition was human is still unknown, but was indicated as a possibility. The process has not been affirmed by a Daubert Test in the courts. Dr. Vass’ group also stated there was chloroform in the car trunk. In evidence hearings, Dr. Ken Furton, a professor in chemistry at Florida International University, stated that there is no consensus in the field on what chemicals are typical of human decomposition. DNA samples could not confirm whether the source was alive or dead. The only DNA testing by the FBI was limited to 752 base pairs out of 16,569 base pairs (less than 5% of the mitochondrial genome sequence).

Evidence was found that someone had searched the Internet on Casey Anthony’s computer for the use of the chloroform and how to make it. On November 26, 2008, officials released 700 pages of documents related to the Anthony investigation, which included evidence of Google searches of the terms “neck breaking”, “how to make chloroform”, and “death” on Casey Anthony’s home computer (which later Cindy Anthony claimed it was she who made the searches, though the search time indicated at the time she cannot possibly be at home but working at her work place).

On February 18, 2009, documents released by the State Attorney’s Office in Florida indicated that the same type of laundry bag, duct tape, and plastic bags discovered at the crime scene were found in the house where Casey and Caylee resided.

Heart-shaped stickers were also recovered by investigators. According to an FBI laboratory email, a heart-shaped outline was originally seen on the duct tape that was recovered from the mouth area of Caylee’s skull, but the laboratory was not able to capture the heart shape photographically and could no longer see it after the duct tape was dusted for fingerprint processing.

The documents also indicate that Cindy Anthony stated to them that a Winnie the Pooh blanket was missing from Caylee’s bed. This type of blanket was found at the crime scene.

An entry from Casey Anthony’s diary was also released.

The following diary entry by Casey Anthony is dated “June 21” and reads:

“I have no regrets, just a bit worried. I just want for everything to work out OK. I completely trust my own judgment and know that I made the right decision. I just hope that the end justifies the means. I just want to know what the future will hold for me. I guess I will soon see – This is the happiest that I have been in a very long time. I hope that my happiness will continue to grow– I’ve made new friends that I really like. I’ve surrounded myself with good people – I am finally happy. Let’s just hope that it doesn’t change”

The trial began on May 24, 2011, at the Orange County Courthouse, with Judge Belvin Perry presiding. In the opening statements, prosecutor Linda Drane Burdick described the story of the disappearance of Caylee Anthony day-by-day. The defense, led by Jose Baez, presented its claim that Caylee drowned accidentally in the family’s pool on June 16, 2008, and was found by George Anthony, who then covered up Caylee’s death and made it so that it would be a secret kept between himself and Casey.

This, the defense argued, is why Casey Anthony went on with her life and failed to report her child missing for 31 days. Baez also alleged that George Anthony had sexually abused Casey since she was eight years old, and also claimed that Casey’s brother Lee had made sexual advances toward her; he was even given a paternity test to see if he was Caylee’s father.


Ok, so that’s how it ended … killers go scotfree … poor presenting of case from the prosecution? not guilty for all 3 major counts apart from lying to the Law enforcement??Well then … it’s just the best lawyers won … no justice done to a helpless child!

But I’d ask this:


A beloved baby girl dies, say accidently; whether the child drowns in the pool or whether she died because her mother tried to babysit with chloroform; what mother tries to hide it? Let alone go partying as if she’s won a lottery? If it was at all an accident, won’t any real, loving, concerned mother try to seek help, even if she was ‘forced’ not to do so?


And the duct tape … if the baby died accidently drowning in the pool … where did it come from?


Lastly, as a human, leaving aside being a mother, how could one having the guilty conscious mind, go on live as if nothing was ever missing, ever wrong. I’m sure; for most of us, it would be hard to be part with our pet animal if it dies, we’d grieve, it would be the most natural thing to do. But, loosing ones own child due to what ever reason and go live the way this sicko did, was amazing. The best part’s she writes to her cell mate; of her plans, to have more kids, reading this gave me the creeps.


And the so called loving grandparents … what a performance …

After all, it wasn’t justice which won, just a bunch of dramatic Lawyers and their loony client, it’s may be not the jurors who failed, it was the justice system.

Caylee little darling … it wasn’t kind of an end even an animal deserves … may you rest in peace … will see … there’s a saying “what goes around … comes around “…!


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Crack addict is charged over prison murder of notorious child sex killer

By Stephen Wright and Christian Gysin

A crack addict prisoner has today been charged over the murder of another notorious child sex killer.

Damien Fowkes, 35, was arrested after Colin Hatch was allegedly taken hostage and strangled by a fellow inmate at the maximum security Full Sutton prison near York on Tuesday night.

Police said that Hatch, who was serving life for the appalling sex murder of seven year old Sean Williams, was strangled to death.

The young boy was snatched after going for a bike ride on a summer’s evening in 1993.


Damian Fowkes, left, has been held over the killing of paedophile murderer Colin Hatch, right

Last night the dead boy’s mother said her ex-husband, John Williams, was ‘ecstatic’ over the killing and told her: ‘Justice had finally been done.’

Lynn Williams, 53, said she felt ‘numb’ over the death.

Fowkes is alleged to have taken Hatch hostage for up to an hour before killing him with a ligature in a barricaded cell.

He will appear before magistrates in Beverley, East Yorkshire, by video-link tomorrow, Humberside Police said.

Justice Secretary Kenneth Clarke ordered an urgent inquiry into the death on the vulnerable prisoners’ wing at Full Sutton prison near York on Tuesday night.

Fowkes, a convicted robber, was transferred there last year from Frankland jail in Durham, another of Britain’s most secure prisons.

The prison inquiry will focus on how Fowkes ended up on the same wing as another reviled paedophile.

One senior source said: ‘It beggars belief that someone who has a burning hatred of paedophiles could be housed in the same wing as someone like Hatch.’ Police confirmed a 35-year-old prisoner had been arrested on suspicion of murder.

Murdered: Seven-year-old Sean Williams

Hatch, 38, was serving life for the murder of Sean in North London in 1993, while on parole for a previous child sex attack. He had a string of convictions for assaulting young boys when he was locked up in January 1994.

Jailing Hatch, Judge Nina Lowry said he was ‘highly dangerous’ and told him it was not possible to envisage a time when he could be released safely.

Sentencing him at the Old Bailey, the judge said: ‘In my judgment, you should never be released back into the community while there remains the slightest danger you will reoffend.’

Unemployed Hatch, then 21, smirked when he heard the verdict. Two years previously, he was jailed for three years for assaulting a boy of eight in almost identical circumstances.

His lawyer warned he could kill when he was released.

Within 11 weeks of being paroled in April 1993, Hatch fulfilled that chilling prediction.

Sean was abducted, sexually assaulted and choked to death after Hatch lured him to his tower block home in Norfolk Close, Finchley, North London.

A postman discovered the youngster’s body taped up in bin liners and dumped in a lift.

Last night the woman who Fowkes married in 2005, Julie Christie, claimed not to know of his murder arrest.

Before slamming the door, Miss Christie, 39, claimed they had split up. The couple had a daughter in 1998.

Fowkes’s mother, Jayne White, could not be reached for comment at her home nearby.

Since the Huntley incident, several social networking tribute pages have been set up ‘in honor’ of Fowkes, praising him for the attack.

Fowkes is due to stand trial for attempted murder at Newcastle Crown Court in July. At a previous hearing, he pleaded not guilty to both charges.

‘I’m numb’ says murdered boy’s mother

The mother of the seven-year-old  boy murdered by Colin Hatch said she was ‘numbed’ by the news of the killer’s death.

Lynn Williams last saw son Sean as he sped off for a bike ride near his home just before 6pm on July 19, 1993. He had shouted: ‘Love you, Mum’ before cycling away.
Just 15 minutes later, he was snatched by Hatch.

‘Hearing the news that Hatch had been murdered himself brought back all the memories,’ Mrs Williams, 53, said last night. ‘I feel just numb at the moment – it feels just like the day Sean died and I have just been going through everything in my mind.

‘I don’t feel pleased about what has happened to Hatch. He has died leaving so many questions unanswered. What I do feel, though, is that perhaps his family will begin to understand what dealing with grief is all about.’

Mrs Williams, a carer who was recently made redundant, added that she was ‘appalled’ that news of Hatch’s death came from her ex-husband rather than the authorities.

‘I could have turned on the television myself and that would have been a hell of a shock.

Anguish: The funeral of seven-year-old Sean Williams. His parents John and Lynne Williams follow the coffin

‘My former husband John rang when he saw the news on TV and it’s fair to say that both he and my daughter Sarah were ecstatic at the news. John said justice had finally been done after 18 years.’

Mrs Williams, who lives with a new partner in Friern Barnet, North  London, added: ‘I did ask the authorities if I could visit Hatch to talk to him. There were things I wanted to know – for instance, why there were  certain bruises on Sean’s body.

‘I have always wanted to know exactly what happened once he got Sean in that flat because over the years I have had nightmares about what might or might not have been done to my son.’

Mrs Williams added: ‘I am really the only member of the family who still goes to visit Sean. I went to see him this morning and told him what had happened with Hatch.’

The Prison Service contacted Mrs Williams at 5pm, seven hours after the story broke.


This s real life drama … amazing situation … different people might hold different judgements over this … and people debate over human rights a lot these days …


Human rights – Oh, how we love those two words … but what is it? this so called “right” anyway? according to the law … it says:


Article 2: Right to life

1.  Everyone’s right to life shall be protected by law. No one shall be deprived of his life intentionally save in the execution of a sentence of a court following his conviction of a crime for which the penalty is provided by law.

2.  Deprivation of life shall not be regarded as inflicted in contravention of this Article when it results from the use of force which is no more than absolutely necessary.

  • in defense of any person from unlawful violence.
  • in order to effect a lawful arrest or to prevent the escape of a person lawfully detained.
  • in action lawfully taken for the purpose of quelling a riot or insurrection.


oh but …  it also says:


Article 6: The right to a fair and public hearing


1. In the determination of his civil rights and obligations or of any criminal charge against him, everyone is entitled to a fair and public hearing within a reasonable time by an independent and impartial tribunal established by law. Judgment shall be pronounced publicly but the press and public may be excluded from all or part of the trial in the interest of morals, public order or national security in a democratic society, where the interests of juveniles or the protection of the private life of the parties so require, or to the extent strictly necessary in the opinion of the court in special circumstances where publicity would prejudice the interests of justice.

2. Everyone charged with a criminal offence shall be presumed innocent until proved guilty according to law.

3. Everyone charged with a criminal offence has the following minimum rights:

a) to be informed promptly, in a language which he understands and in detail, of the nature and cause of the accusation against him;

b) to have adequate time and facilities for the preparation of his defence;

c) to defend himself in person or through legal assistance of his own choosing or, if he has not sufficient means to pay for legal assistance, to be given it free when the interests of justice so require;

d) to examine or have examined witnesses against him and to obtain the attendance and examination of witnesses on his behalf under the same conditions as witnesses against him;

e) to have the free assistance of an interpreter if he cannot understand or speak the language used in court.


Well … now I’m seriously confused …  now according to the law … who has violated whose rights here??


Everyone, irrelevant to their deeds … have ‘rights’ … hence protected by the law …  a  criminal as same as a low abiding human? … really? oh wow …


If by giving only a “life sentence “to a person (an animal sort, who’s been born in the form of a human) who destroyed an innocent life … a defenseless little child … justifying ‘his ‘human rights, haven’t’ the law fail miserably here?



I do think so …



law surely has stolen the justice away from a poor little boy … and of his parents … 


Now … there’s this other felon ….what about him?? Has he done the correct thing, taking law in to his hands? has he given the due justice to Sean and his parents? … on behalf of the law? …


not that I approve of his fabulous life style … but I’d say … yes …


By saying this … I dont declare ‘eye for an eye’ … all I ‘m saying is … verdict by law isn’t accurate … always … in the public eyes …


Would I become a criminal? for voicing my strong opinions?  … certainly not … you see I’m protected by ‘Human rights‘ too…


 why … I’m allowed to hold my opinion as per another act 


  “Freedom of Expression” …  



as  it says :


Article 10: Freedom of expression

1. Everyone has the right to freedom of expression. This right shall include freedom to hold opinions and to receive and impart information and ideas without inference by public authority and regardless of frontiers. This Article shall not prevent States from requiring the licensing of broadcasting, television or cinema enterprises.

2. The exercise of these freedoms, since it carries with it duties and responsibilities, may be subject to such formalities, conditions, restrictions or penalties as are prescribed by law and are necessary in a democratic society, in the interests of national security, territorial disorder or crime, for the protection of health or morals, for the protection of the reputation or rights of others, for preventing the disclosure of information received in confidence, or for maintaining the authority and impartiality of the judiciary.

alas … my freedom … how wonderful!

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If you should ever know, yourself … deep down … the inner self … or  members of your family… or friends … loved ones …well enough … what would you do?  


Reflect on your own moves? Get familiar with others? Associate them longer?


I believe …. It never matters how long you’ve known a person … still you’d only get just a glimpse of the true nature of that person … and would be getting to know ourselves … others around us … till death…


Whether we are related or no … each of us humans have unique personalities … hence we are indeed different …


I’m positive that you have heard of “Myers-Briggs” … its one method of identifying, categorizing human Traits, Qualities and Actions.


According to Myers – Briggs:


“Every person has two faces. One is directed towards the OUTER world of activities, excitements, people, and things. The other is directed inward to the INNER world of thoughts, interests, ideas, and imagination … While these are two different but complementary sides of our nature, most people have an innate preference towards energy from either the OUTER or the INNER world. Thus one of their faces, either the Extraverted (E) or Introverted (I), takes the lead in their personality development and plays a more dominant role in their behavior …”

“The Sensing (S) side of our brain notices the sights, sounds, smells and all the sensory details of the PRESENT. It categorizes, organizes, records and stores the specifics from the here and now. It is REALITY based, dealing with “what is.” It also provides the specific details of memory & recollections from PAST events. The Intuitive (N) side of our brain seeks to understand, interpret and form OVERALL patterns of all the information that is collected and records these patterns and relationships. It speculates on POSSIBILITIES, including looking into and forecasting the FUTURE. It is imaginative and conceptual. While both kinds of perceiving are necessary and used by all people, each of us instinctively tends to favor one over the other.”

“The Thinking (T) side of our brain analyzes information in a DETACHED, objective fashion. It operates from factual principles, deduces and forms conclusions systematically. It is our logical nature. The Feeling (F) side of our brain forms conclusions in an ATTACHED and somewhat global manner, based on likes/dislikes, impact on others, and human and aesthetic values. It is our subjective nature. While everyone uses both means of forming conclusions, each person has a natural bias towards one over the other so that when they give us conflicting directions – one side is the natural trump card or tiebreaker.”

“All people use both judging (thinking and feeling) and perceiving (sensing and intuition) processes to store information, organize our thoughts, make decisions, take actions and manage our lives. Yet one of these processes (Judging or Perceiving) tends to take the lead in our relationship with the outside world . . . while the other governs our inner world. A Judging (J) style approaches the outside world WITH A PLAN and is oriented towards organizing one’s surroundings, being prepared, making decisions and reaching closure and completion. A Perceiving (P) style takes the outside world AS IT COMES and is adopting and adapting, flexible, open-ended and receptive to new opportunities and changing game plans.”

If such s the case … then human nature s so … complex … confusing … puzzling … enough


Just in case have you ever considered how it probably was for our parents? I mean … when we were kids? And of course …  even when we were adult enough  … yet behaving like kids? Well … yes yes, we are their own … so they’d love us unconditionally and would tolerate anything we do … and of course if you are a parent you‘d know it’s the truth …


But, what about our poor teachers, who had to put up with us … our different personalities … when there s so much going on in their lives (being human) … who had to forget about everything the minute they started teaching us … they obviously took great pride in what they did … so there goes the headaches … unpaid bills out of their minds … because that minute we became their priority …


Was it just a job for them? I mean did they endure all that for a monthly pay only? They taught us … yes … and had to suffer sometimes … because of our bewildering attitude … they got in the middle of our fights … tolerated our pathetic mistakes even when we were taught a hundred times … saddened if we flunked an exam … saw grey hair even when they were just in thirty s …  all that only for a living ?


 I doubt …


They too had to treat everyone of us equally … even if half of the class s full of hyper active kids … still our teachers probably banged their heads on the wall outside … before entering the class … yet taught us diligently while they are at it… they went through many hurdles with us … didn’t they?


You’ d spend time with your parents whenever possible I’m sure … but have you ever thought of paying a visit to your old teacher? Aren’t we supposed to be eternally grateful for them?  For the patience, understanding, kindness they showed us … for molding us to who we are today? Well people it’s still not too late …


Take a look … in to a Teachers world … how they feel … what pleases them … the obstacles they get through … and the ultimate result will be… making a difference … in our lives …



By: Jim Burgett


Trees and Kids


There is an unusual tree commonly known as the Chinese Bamboo Tree. It is real. Years ago I heard a speaker talk about it, using it to make a point. It stuck in my head. I even did some research to find out if the speaker was blowing smoke and made up the tree. He didn’t.

The story goes like this. You prepare the soil, pick the right spot, then plant the Chinese Bamboo Tree. You water it and wait. But you wait an entire year and nothing appears. No bud, no twig, nothing. So you keep watering and protecting the area and taking care of the future plant, and you wait some more. You wait another year and nothing still happens. Okay, you are a persistent person not prone to giving up, so you keep on watering. You water, check the soil, start talking to the ground, maybe even click your heels in some kind of growing dance you read about in the National Geographic. Another year passes and still no sign of growth.

It has been three years. Should you give up? Someone told you that it might take a while to really see the fruits of your efforts, so you keep on keeping on. More water, more talk, more dancing. The neighbors are wondering. And another year passes. No tree.

You now make a decision. If there is no tree on this date one year from now you will stop watering. period. So you begin year number five with the same passion as day number one. You water, you wait. You keep watering and keep waiting. You water some more and then, could it be? Is it really? Yep, there it is, something sticking out of the dirt. You come back the next day and WOW it has really grown! In fact you come back each day for about six weeks and finally the Chinese Bamboo tree stops growing—but it is over 80 feet tall! Yes, 80 feet in six weeks! Well, not really. It is 80 feet in five years.

The point is simple. If you had given up for even the shortest period of time, there would be no tree. It took almost impossible persistence. The Chinese Bamboo tree is there for one reason and one reason only—because you never gave up on it.

When I talk to teachers at workshops or institutes I find one who teaches first grade and I ask that person to mentally think of a student who they wouldn’t mind see moving to another district. You get the drift, a student who is a real challenge. Let’s give the student a name. I’ll use my own name to be politically correct. The kid is named Jim. I ask the teacher if they ever had a student like Jim that they really worked hard with, tried every trick in the book, searched for new ways to meet the child’s learning needs, and so on, but still felt that at the end of the year that Jim had not learned. That Jim was still a challenge, and although he met the minimum standards to pass, he was not on the teacher’s list of proudest achievements. Most teachers usually agree that they have, or had, a Jim in their class.

Now we move to a second grade teacher and we pretend that they get Jim in the fall, work with him all year, watch their hair turn from brunette to shades of stressful gray, and by the end of the year feel they did their best, but it wasn’t good enough.

Now, for a minute, let’s talk about little Jimmy. He’s not in special ed. Jimmy is just a jerk. Don’t fall off your chair and gasp, “Did he call that kid a jerk?” I did, but not the jerk you are thinking of. My JERK is an acronym for Just Educationally Resistive Kid. He doesn’t have ADD or any other alphabetized condition. He just doesn’t like to learn and he resists it. He isn’t a bad kid or a troublemaker. “Jimmys” exist in all sizes and shapes and even come in girl forms.

Let’s jump to grade three. We have the same conversation all over again. Jim is passed on but he is a disappointment to every teacher so far, and they all worry that if things don’t turn around Jim could become a troublemaker or an academic disgrace.

Jim holds his own in grade four. No big changes. He surely doesn’t love school, but he isn’t failing anything. He exhibits no passion for anything at the schoolhouse. And no signs of any real change either.

Grade five. Jim has a new teacher and all the other teachers try to warn her that Jim is, well, how do we say it? Jim is special, but not special ed. He exists, but barely. He will continue to be a challenge, but he’s not a threat to safety. Jim is Jim. Try anything, but nothing will probably work. If you don’t believe me, ask all of his previous teachers.

At semester break the new teacher makes a comment about Jim at a teachers meeting. With anticipated sadness, everyone listens. Here is what she says…

“Jim is quite a writer. He turned in a couple of stories and I told him he was very creative. He is now writing a mystery story and it is good! And he’s also showing some talent in basketball. He’s really growing too. I love his passion to play ball and write. He seems to thrive on the success of his hook shot and his imagination. I really enjoy that kid.” Jim has arrived!

Was it the new teacher who pulled out Jim’s hidden talents and secret love for learning? Was it some biological change that caused Jim to mature and become a better learner, a more serious student? Was it his physical abilities that expanded his self-esteem and made it easier for him to write?

Maybe it was a little of all these things, but it was also what I call the Chinese Bamboo Factor. Every teacher Jim had since he entered school worked hard providing opportunities for Jim to learn, to grow, and to become. Every teacher watered, fertilized, and cared for Jim. Even when the year ended and they were sometimes glad to pass him on to another teacher, they still knew that they had done their best to give him the best.

Oh, by the way, my story could stop and start at any grade. And Jim could be Janet, and the teacher could be a he rather than a she. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is the Chinese Bamboo Factor—never, ever quit on a student. Even when you see no progress, it doesn’t mean that the kid isn’t processing something somehow somewhere. 

One more thing, a big thing: the Chinese Bamboo Tree did start to grow very shortly after the seed was planted. The roots grew deep and strong for many years before there was any sign of a plant above ground. Sometimes that same thing happens with kids. They develop a foundation of learning. They learn to learn. They creep along doing the minimum, building their strengths (or finding them), and sometimes they just wait for the right combination of factors before they bloom. It may be the motivation of a certain teacher or a new found confidence or skill. It may be that all of a sudden “they get it” and learning becomes exciting. If we knew exactly what the formula was and how it worked for everyone, we could probably cure the ills of the world.

So what do we learn from the Chinese Bamboo Tree? I’d suggest the following:

* It takes patience to teach some, even most, kids.

* When you give up on a kid, you give up a human being.

* Even when you don’t see progress, if you do your best, it is probably happening.

* If something doesn’t work with a kid, try something else—but never quit trying.

* Some of our best teaching doesn’t “break soil” until all conditions are right.

* When you think you are growing a tree, you may be growing a root.

* Strong roots support strong trees.

Sometimes it takes a lot of patience to change a life. 



Are you a Mean Teacher?



A MEAN teacher insists that each student do the best s/he is capable of doing.

A MEAN teacher insists that students hand in their assignments on time and takes off points for late assignments.

A MEAN teacher does not accept incomplete assignments.

A MEAN teacher requires each student to think carefully and to make her/his own decisions.

A MEAN teacher holds each student responsible for her/his own behavior.

A MEAN teacher makes students keep the classroom, themselves, and their belongings neat and clean.

A MEAN teacher does not allow free time in class until all class-work is done.

A MEAN teacher gives homework regularly, sometimes even on weekends.

A MEAN teacher calls on students who don’t raise their hands to answer questions.

A MEAN teacher requires all students to treat each other with respect.

A MEAN teacher makes life miserable for students by insisting that they always tell the truth.

A MEAN teacher produces students who are respectful, responsible, and successful.

NOTE – MEAN = Making   Excellence   A   Necessity




 Surely I want to be one!


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Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end


Time – amazing phenomena… a year, consist of 8 765.81277 hours, about to be gone for good as the count down has started…


There ends one year & begins another… Year 2010!


What have I done past 365 days of year 2009? What have you being doing? Did I conclude what was important in my never ending list of tasks? It’s again the time to ponder… How many 31st of Decembers have we been calculating of how many we couldn’t achieve in the passing year? Oh, weren’t there too much always?


Is it worthy feeling apologetic of what went wrong as the year came to an end? misconceptions, unethical deeds, deceiving moments, animosity, absurdity? How many years have come & gone making the same old mistakes? Well, aren’t we all human after all?


Isn’t this great?? We have been pardoned… oh yeah… too many things to do with too little time… making errors are the nature of humans now… isn’t it? Wow … whom are we kidding?



Well… can’t do this any longer. I decided; for year 2010, there won’t be any more new resolutions for me; instead I ‘m determined, to manage my time in the best possible ways, promised myself, not to repeat the things I did wrong consciously / unconsciously , the previous year.


For those who have run out of resolutions; I guess you can borrow my idea…


And if we lived to tell the story, we’d be able to make a better confession on 31st of December, 2010!



Happy Holidays & wishing every one a prosperous + peaceful + happy New Year…!

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Here I am, turning my thoughts, feelings in to words again… It took a while I know; with so much going on in my life, I can’t blame my self for the absence yet I feel sad that I couldn’t return sooner…


Well… I believe I chose timing properly to return; though it took a while any way… what other better time to reappear than December… the most wonderful time of the year.. May be it’s just a wishful thinking on my part, that I wish how wonderful it’ll be, if, many among us would hug the true meaning of Christmas this year for a change… perhaps I’m a dreamer or just asking too much…


Year 2009, which went on hypersonic speed… ending without one recurring dream come true for me. I dreamt of walking in a winter wonderland … Better luck next time?


Merry Christmas to all of those who appreciate my blogs and to the whole world; especially for children, the true owners of Christ s’ Love and Compassion…!!!


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